This is a confused and confusing time. The weekend just gone could have been A LOT better, but…. it could also have been soooo much worse. I was at a Dr Who thing, with a friend and seeing a bunch if other people who I only get to see at Dr Who things. People of my Who tribe! I was able to get an access ticket which meant I could bring a PA/carer/assistant. This was booked at the beginning of the year, many months before i knew that i would be doing this medication change, but damn I’m glad I did it because fucking hell i needed the help!!
Things likely would have been much more pleasant had my plans not turned to shit where my accommodation was concerned. It was so bad and dirty and noisy that i eventually changed. But while there i was increasingly more stressed, unrested and angry. I was uncomfortable, had to clean and disinfect EVERYTHING, felt like i needed to bleach and boil my own skin every time I touched things. I woke up with a load of bug bites, the place was decrepid, filthy and damp. The staff lying rude fucks who acted like i was being unreasonable for wanting a sanitary, safe and quiet place to sleep. …! So yeah, that made everything else harder to handle.
In comes my friend, who kept me calm, focused and safe over the weekend. Providing company, advice and guidance, managing stressful situations and providing a huge amount of pleasure in displaying her joy in things! 🙂 The massive grin on her face while feeding birds was an utter delight. The check-ins and questions what i needed to make decisions and ensure i was keeping myself safe. Our safe word essential and also providing a lot of amusement when my Tourette’s hijacked it
“CHICKEN FIGHT!!!”
Id also reached another drop down in dosage, now on one quarter of my original dose. About a week of this remains before reducing again to 1/8th for a month. I have had moments where ive felt okay and wondered why i was even taking antidepressants in the first place. Ive had times where i began to feel a hypermania reach out for me and loved it. I HAVE MISSED THE HYPER STATES SO VERY MUCH. And the tablets essentially kill them, all so i can not be suicidal and self harmy. Which obviously wasnt working hence the change. But im generally feeling okayish, yes im fucking stressed and angry all the time, i wouldn’t have coped at all with that accommodation without the support around me. And yeah im having flashes and impulses to kill/maim myself or others. The only disturbing bit about that is the impulses to hurt strangers. All the rest of it is there all the time anyway with or without medication and has been for almost as long as I can remember. Its just who i am, as much as I hate it, its me and its the familiar uncomfortable. The hypers I miss, they dont just feel Good, they give me energy and positivity, I had actually forgotten how it felt to have energy. Instead of constant draining pain and fatigue, to feel like i had reserves, to have the ability to think productively and BE productive. The only downside is the wanting to lash out and hurt others.
Ive been wondering if im going to take the new medication, the stuff that I fought so hard and long for. The stuff that might help reduce neuropathic pain, that will likely stop or at least reduce the urge to lash out, the stuff that will almost certainly stop me experiencing the pleasurable sides of my mental ‘illness’
Right now i am exhausted, as usual, and low on spoons. I had another unpleasant dream which set me up for an emotionally and physically painful day. I AM away from home and in a better place thats clean and comfortable. I have made contact with my father, who ive not seen or spoken to in years, and will be going to see in 2 days. Medication or no that was always going to be difficult, though I think ive done enough therapy to deal with it in a mostly reasonable way. I got a message from the rape and sexual abuse charity yesterday saying they finally have a space for me. YAY, I think. Although, its an hour and forty minutes travel each way, I was expecting it to be somewhere far more accessible for me. I am torn about taking the spot and committing to potentially years of all that travel for something that I DONT WANT TO TALK ABOUT. and yes I know im privileged to even have the opportunity, and privileged to want it to be easier to get to. But I dont live in the middle of nowhere, where it takes 2 hrs to get anywhere important. And I have huge amounts of stress and physical difficulty with that amount of travel. Oh how I miss the days when I could and would spend hours upon hours, day after day, miles after mile, walking or taking buses. I now have a system where I log my medication and painkillers consumption with a partner, and its working better than any other system that ive tried over the years. Speaking of which, ive forgotten to take painkillers several times jn the last couple of hours…brb.
I want my hypermania back. I want my energy back. It might even give me back any hope of finding a reason to keep tormenting myself. I dont care if I die, and sometimes I actively want it. I have made a lot of progress, made improvements to my coping strategies. Learned how to be more assertive and less fearful of consequences. I have not learned to deal with rejection and perceived rejection. Nor how to dissolve reactive emotions that come from things not going the way I wanted them. Feelings that stick and linger for a long time. Such as the disappointment i still feel at not being able to talk with my sister about important emotional issues. We’ve really only recently created a space where we could do that and I expected it to happen last time i saw her, but it didnt and I felt like shit, like a stupid needy idiot who exposed their vulnerabilities only to be left alone with the unreasonable mountain of crap i dragged along with me. Im so angry at myself, opening up and showing vulnerability, thinking that things would be different to any other time id taken a risk and been neglected. This is unfair on my sister as its My history My problems, and a more extreme reaction than it would be most other people because its family and remenisant of my whole life at home with the bitch. The proper and healthy thing to do would be to tell my sister whats happening in my head, the demons in my head keep screaming that she doesnt care or need me so why bother. Just like everything else, why bother? Why bother taking stupid medication that inhibits any joy in my life. Why bother spending vital energy reserves going back into therapy to talk about something that I know is going to make me want to seriously hurt myself and leave me drowning in painful memories and nightmares. Why bother clearing my house, chasing up my social worker, getting my housing transfer sorted, or really doing anything, if im just going to kill myself anyway. Why spend so much energy pretending I’m a functional person, or chasing medical and psych services to do their fucking jobs. Why. Why is anything. What is the fucking point.